Keep Christmas for the children

Christmas celebrations for children are too often marked by family divisions when relationships break down.  

According to statistics from the ONS around 100,000 children per year see their parents divorcing, with many of those families breaking up immediately after a last Christmas together, and family lawyers seeing a surge in enquiries for divorce each New Year.  Alongside, there are many more children who will be affected by family breakdown, but who are not shown in those statistics, where their parents are not married. 


And while the break-up may offer hope of ending a difficult time, too often it marks the start of a new challenge, with couples engaged in a drawn-out court process, instead of collaborating to find common ground. 

For many families, the final Christmas will be marked by arguments and behaviour that may come to be used as an example of the unreasonable behaviour that will form grounds for divorce.  To secure a divorce, the marriage must be shown to have broken down irretrievably, with most being ‘fault-based’ – adultery or  unreasonable behaviour. Another alternative is a period of separation of at least two years before issuing the divorce petition, but separate living arrangements can be difficult to achieve before assets have been divided through the process of divorce. Whilst the break-up for unmarried couples appears to offer a simpler exit strategy, it underlines the lack of legal protection for cohabiting partners. 

There have been calls for a change in the law to allow for ‘no fault’ divorce without long separation, with those advocating the change arguing this could reduce animosity and provide a better environment for children.  Most recently Baroness Hale, the first female president of the Supreme Court, spoke out to say that the law should be changed to address injustices, including ‘no fault’ divorce, statutory backing for pre-nuptial contracts and greater rights for cohabiting partners, who have been shown to be at greater risk after a break-up, with few routes for financial protection.

Claire Schneck Head of Family at Clarkson Wright & Jakes said: “Many people who have been living together for any length of time, sharing a home and bringing up children, think they have some special rights through a ‘common law marriage’. There is no such protection unless something is legally owned between the two of you – for example if your name is on the title deeds for a property, as joint tenants or tenants in common, or if you have a jointly named savings account. 

"The lack of financial remedy for cohabiting couples is often the biggest issue.  While a parent can be made to contribute to the maintenance of their children, there is no such protection for a former partner to claim maintenance if they cannot work while bringing up the children of the relationship.”

Claire added: “Whether starting out, or in a committed relationship, and whether married or cohabiting, it’s sensible to think about protecting assets through a pre or post nuptial agreement or a cohabitation agreement.  For many couples, simply having the frank discussion that goes into making such an agreement can help to create a positive, open attitude in a relationship from the start.  While pre or post nuptial agreements are not yet binding in the UK, they have increasing weight after being tested in the courts.”

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